“The quality of your life is a direct reflection of the quality of the questions you are asking yourself”
When I coach people, I'm not just trying to reprogram them for success--I'm also helping them to remove the old programming that doesn't serve them. Think of it this way: if you just keep installing new programs, but you never delete the old ones, you have all this clutter of apps still running in the background, chewing up your memory and slowing down your processing speed.
One of the easiest ways to uninstall these old programs is to start by asking better questions. The right questions will act as seek and destroy missiles that will hunt down these old programs and get rid of them.
Here's an example of what I mean...let's say you find yourself saying, "I don't have enough time to do XYZ". How do you really know that? How much time would be enough time for you to do it? How much time are you habitually doing non-essential things that are stealing time away from doing XYZ?
If you're like most people, you're probably getting into self-deception. And the biggest deception is that you don't have enough time. If something is important enough to you, you'll make the time.
And we can go even deeper down the rabbit hole! What is time? Time is a human construct. It actually doesn't exist. Scientists can't even agree on how to measure one second. They use the "time" it takes for radioactive materials to decay to quantify what one second is, and there's disagreement about which radioactive materials are the most "accurate". So even the measurement of one second is made up!
So how do you define "time"? How will you know when you have "enough" time? Did you know time is merely a perception--so how are you perceiving time? Is it always expanding for you? Always plenty available?
A powerful question to journal and ask yourself is: what is my relationship with time?
From a very early age, we are programmed with thinking that time is finite. We are taught that being late is bad. We are led to believe "there's only so many hours in the day". Absolutely we have the power to write ourselves new programs. How you spend your time (or said another way--experience time) is a CHOICE.
The moment you stop giving away all your power to things external to you, that is the moment you start living by choice rather than circumstances.
What I'd love for you to do is start to journal and examine the mental programming that was installed in your mind years ago. What limitations do you believe you have? Then begin to question how you know those things are true and you will find yourself discarding old versions of yourself and upgrading your life an a big scale.